[Dear MBzers] My Girlfriend Slept With Another Man; How Do I Cope With The Confession? — Ted

Dear MBzers,

Let me be quick and brief with this. There was no way I would’ve known that my girlfriend slept with another guy, if she or the guy didn’t tell me—I may not even believe a stranger who claim to have had sex with my baby—as I have really decided to ignore the fact that guys are always disturbing her because she’s just too beautiful to ignore; I trusted the strong love we share to always guide her from crossing such lines instead. But now, I am not sure if I did the right thing as she recently told me, during a private confession session, that she committed the original sin with another dude!

Alright, there was one of these moments in our relationship when we had little misunderstanding, when unfortunately my girlfriend was in need of someone to be there for her. I actually hoped the “need” would make her apologise and we fall back in line, but she didn’t apologise till much later, which was strange but I chose not to raise any baseless suspicion. So, she recently told me that she survived the time without my presence… because there was this guy that came in at her weakest point during the time, and she helplessly gave in to him to make her feel loved.

This “confession sessions” of ours are special times both of us created to use in telling all the truth about our relationship, no matter how devastating, with the purpose of checking, correcting and reconciling misunderstandings. And the one rule we have is: SAY IT ALL; NOTHING YOU SAY WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU IN THIS RELATIONSHIP. There are times we have kissed and (or) get to smooch some other people, which we settled amicably… but never have we shared a confession about sleeping with another person!

Fully aware of the rule we made, which was the only reason she shared the secret, I couldn’t be myself again ever since my girl told me she slept with another man. I feel cheated, because I have never thought of sleeping with another girl ever since we started dating. She’s not my wife yet, I know, but I love her so much and I feel she just betrayed my love for her. I am not supposed to use her confession against her, but I can’t hold on to that information as it stands as a bone stuck in the throat; painful where it is, I can’t spit it out and I can’t swallow it!

Yes, I was supposed to make this brief and quick, I am sorry for taking so much of your time… please I need to know how to handle this situation I find myself in my relationship, without being the one that will eventually betray her love for sharing her sin and apology. I really need help, and I hope MBzers will read and provide me with answers.

Thanks.

Ted.

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