Saturday 8 February 2014

My Boyfriend Wants Me To Sleep With His Best Friend; Somebody Help! [Dear MBzers]


Dear MBzers,
I am a 300 level student of Music in a private university in Nigeria, and I date a working class boyfriend. He is older and more mature, so I respect and love him a lot… and I feel he loves me too.

However, his best friend just got back from the UK during the last Christmas season, and he brought a dilemma into my life with his return. I am still confused as I don’t understand the condition that will warrant my boyfriend’s request after a week of his friend’s return… he just wants me to “make love” to his friend, and he will be there to watch—is that not crazy?

Well, I am pretty aware of some wild things that young people do, so I suggested that I could talk to some wild friends of mine to satisfy his friend and declined his request as I can never feel okay with such. I even suggested that if they (my boyfriend and his friend) desire a gang bang, where it will be strictly me to my boyfriend though, I said I don’t mind… but he didn’t buy my idea.

Last Christmas was the worst I have ever experienced and my relationship is gradually hitting the rocks every day of this new year because I am staying on my ground not to “please my boyfriend”… but I love him so much and I don’t want to lose him, I am confused! I don’t know if anyone like me is (or was) out there, please I need to know how you are fighting (or you fought) this kind of situation. I really need help, and I hope MBzers will read and provide me with answers.

Thanks.

Barbie

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9 comments:

  1. the first question you should ask him is why? and if he confess to you the basic reason then it ur call to make

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  2. Questions to ask yourself ..Why would your boyfriend want you to have sex with his besty while he watches? Is that an act of love? Are u a pornstar? Does that show respect for you? Does that show repect for his relationship with you? Is that what a guy who truly loves his girlfriend would request of her? Isn't that a self-centere request? Is the sacrifice of losing respect before your man and his besty worth the love you have for him? If you're a Christian is this morally right? Did he meet you as a prostitute or a girl who sleeps around?

    My dear, I don't know how old you are but to be honest you have to use your commo sense and not make mistakes you're gonna regret later on because of BLIND LOVE.

    Any man who respects his girl wouldn't even dare make such a request.

    This alone tells how much he values you and what he truly sees you as. A bitch who I can tell to satisfy my friend.

    Is that what your worth really is? REALLY?

    The fact that you even came to ask this publicly shows you might actually be considering doing this stupid act because you want to please a guy you love so much.

    Love is a beautiful thing when it is respected by both parties. You love this guy but he doesn't respect you enough or love you as much as you think.

    My advice, don't do it and also don't stay in the relationship. You're worth more than having a man who sees you as a sex toy he can pass on to his bestfriend.

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  3. That's nounsense what can push him †̥ dat rubbis u av 2 stand dat out careful nd QUIT*****************life tho

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  4. Pls don't u ever try such irresponsible and unreasonable act. I think ur life as well as ur future are in danger here if u still continue with dat selfish beast u called boyfriend. Com to think of it someone dat truly loves wl b so jealous dat he wl NT even allow any so so called best friend 2 near u NT to talk of sleeping wt u. I think u dnt knw dat ur boyfriend too well, maybe he is a ritualist, he has ulterio motive. May be dey want 2 use ur destiny. Pls run for ur dear life. Cos I'm sure if u ever try to do dat u wl end up in regret and misery. Pls sister quit him now d person dat values u wl ever com for u. Com to think of it, why can't his friend choose a girl frm millions of girls out there, or beta still ask u 2 help him get one. Pls is beta u quit him now cos "HAD I KNOW" COmes Lastly and Lately. Run for ur life he doesn't love u if he rily means wat he is telling u. Unless he is joking

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  5. Loool... Dnt do it mehn

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  6. you all have said the right thing....my girl,just quit the relationship...I can see clearly that he doesn't bring happiness to your life..You are a woman and must protect your dignity..Your so called boyfriend does not love you and respect you..

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  7. Dumb request,don't even think abt it,ur so called lover s a pervert!#fearGod nd let go of dat monster

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  8. Not true love, slow down, take a deep breath and wait for the right guy...take your time. True love is caring, special and will last you a lifetime. Its worth the wait. Do you think Prince Charming asked Snow White to sleep with one of the Dwarfs?

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